Smoking kills you. It killed my dad. It will kill you.
The message couldn’t be clearer or more evident. And even smokers themselves agree!
And yet they don’t stop.
Never, ever, ever, underestimate how challenging it is to implement change even when the evidence in favour of that change is overwhelming.
Existing habits take some shifting!
P.S. Nagging doesn’t work. I spent the last 15 years of my Dads life nagging him every morning to stop smoking as his bronchitis worsened daily. He didn’t stop.
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It’s not just children that mimic your every move, employees do it also!
I well remember one boss who, to put it mildly was a bit of a nutter… and several of my peers decided that to get ahead they should behave like nutters also! The consequences for the company were disastrous!
Make your influence positive!
Melanie Reid is an award-winning Times journalist whose weekly column for The Times, ‘Spinal Column’, is about disability and her life as a disabled person. She broke her neck and back, in April 2010 whilst horse riding, and is now a tetraplegic.
Her column is open , honest, and above all thought provoking.
One sentence in one particular column hit home –
“If you don’t want to live – I mean appreciate every moment of being free and able – give me your body”
” We can’t all be heroes because somebody has to sit on the curb and clap as they go by” – Will Rogers.
“So when people ask me what American Pie means, I tell them it means I don’t ever have to work again!” – Don McLean
“Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality” – Mr Leroy Washington (to Les Brown)
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Have you ever lost your freedom?
Some people say they have. Some people say they haven’t.
A surprising number of people though, who say they haven’t, have got it wrong. Because, they, like me, will have gone through periods in their lives where they have been imprisoned by their own thoughts.
“I’m not good enough”,”I’m too old”, “I’m too young”, “I’m too fat”, “I’m too thin”, “I’m too qualified”, ” I’m not qualified enough!” etc., etc., etc….mental prison bars that we erect in front of ourselves to restrict our freedom.
We find ourselves locked up in a prison of our own making. Our freedom lost as surely as if we were in Wormwood Scrubs.
And that’s very dangerous. As Red said in The Shawshank Redemption…
“These walls are funny. First you hate ‘em, then you get used to ‘em. Enough time passes, you get so you depend on them. That’s institutionalised”.
Don’t get institionalised. Smash down those bars. Stage a jail break!
“The eagle gently coaxed her offspring toward the edge of the nest. Her heart quivered with conflicting emotions as she felt their resistance to her persistent nudging. “Why does the thrill of soaring have to begin with the fear of falling?” she thought. This ageless question was still unanswered for her.
As is the tradition of the species, her nest was located high on the shelf of a sheer rock face. Below there was nothing but air to support the wings of each child. “Is it possible that this time it will not work?” she thought. Despite her fears, the eagle knew it was time. Her parental mission was all but complete. There remained one final task – the push.
The eagle drew courage from an innate wisdom. Until her children discovered their wings, there was no purpose for their lives. Until they learned how to soar, they would fail to understand the privilege it was to have been born an eagle. The push was the greatest gift she had to offer. It was her supreme act of love.
And so one by one she pushed them. . . and they flew!”
David McNally, author and international speaker, June 1990.
So what have you learnt in the last six months and how are you going to change things for the next six?
What’s your plan?
More of the same? Or are you going to change things with a view to getting different results?
Maybe you are so far ahead in the game of life , you don’t need to change anything?
You should be so lucky!
Maybe you are so far behind, paralysis has set in?
Get a grip, fight back, you’re no loser!
Whatever the state of your game now, make sure you’re a winner when the final whistle blows!